Somehow, I seem to know a few people who are lovers of “myself.” No, they are not in love with me. They love the word–and unfortunately use it gratingly and incorrectly:
1. “Brenda and myself visited my cousin in Tucson.”
2. “John invited Brenda and myself for dinner this Saturday.”
Please, no! Stop it, or I will be bald by Memorial Day!
“Myself” is NOT some elegant variation of “I” or “me.” It never takes the place of either of those words. The time to use “myself” is for emphasis at the end of a sentence when you have already mentioned yourself:
“I drove to Tucson myself.” See that”I”? That makes “myself” kosher. I mentioned myself and then used “myself” at the end to emphasize the fact that no one else did any of the driving. I did it all myself.
In sentences 1 and 2, just leave out the other person temporarily and you will instantly know whether you need “I” or “me.” You’d never say or write, “Myself visited my cousin in Tucson.” You know you would use “I.” Adding Brenda back into the sentence changes nothing. It is “Brenda and I visited….”
In the second sentence, you’d never say or write, “John invited myself for dinner.” You know the right word is “me.” Adding Brenda back to the sentence changes nothing: “John invited Brenda and me for dinner this Saturday.”
Have I made myself clear?